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by Jennifer Good
Your bedroom is your sanctuary and haven. It's a place to get away from it all and leave everyday stresses behind. Couples who put a little extra effort into turning their bedroom into their personal love den, however, get even more than a peaceful getaway. These couples have found a way to put togetherness first and increase their bond with each other through inspired love play. You may not always be in the mood when you walk in the door after a long day, but one step into your passionate playground should go a long way toward stoking the fires of passion.
Before getting started, you'll need to take some time out and define the purpose of your room. Think about what you want you and your partner to feel when you walk into the room. Hot sex, sentimental romance, exotic getaway or something in between? Once you determined the theme or mood of the room, don't let anything in that doesn't reflect your overall goal.
Ready to bring sexy back to your bedroom? Now that you've defined your purpose, use these tips to put it into action!
THE COLOR OF PASSION
Color is the easiest and quickest way to set the mood of a room. While there is a huge spectrum of colors to choose from, some have definite advantages and disadvantages. Red, for instance, is often identified as a color synonymous with sex and romance, but it also known for bringing out aggressive behaviors and thoughts. This tends to rule out the idea using red as a main color in the bedroom. You may want hot sex, but you still need to be able to sleep in the room. Purple, on the other hand, invokes an exotic, sensual feeling while still keeping the air of relaxation, making it a more favorable color choice.
Think about the overall mood of your room and make your selections from there. Good choices include medium to dark shades of purple, blue, green, brown, grey and orange. Great accent colors include red, black, pink, white, and tan.
BED PLAY
Being the largest and most used piece of furniture in your room, the bed gets priority attention. Platform beds are considered high on the romance scale. This is great for couples with low budgets, as most platform beds are quite affordable at major chain furniture stores such as IKEA and Crate & Barrel. Most importantly, though, is to make sure your bed is a focal point in your room. Easy ways to use your bed to set the tone of your room include:
Soft & Luxurious Bedding
This is not the place to scrimp on your budget. Get the highest quality thread-count sheets you can afford. If you're buying new bedding, open the packaging to actually feel the blankets before purchasing. Sheets will always be a bit stiff before you wash them, but blankets should make you feel like you can't wait another instant to snuggle up with your partner underneath them. Keep in mind your color choices and how easy it will be to take care of your bedding. If you have animals, that exotic, beaded bedding set may look nice for a few days until they get eaten off or need to be dry cleaned because of all the animal hair. Solid colors in your actual bedding provide the greatest ease for everyday maintenance. You can make up for the lack of pattern elsewhere in your room.
Lots of Pillows
While they may get tossed on the floor during your love play, or even when you sleep, the look of a bed filled with pillows sends a clear message of invitation. When you get creative with textures, the invitation gets harder and harder to pass up. For even more fun, consider ordering (or making your own) specialized pillowcases with sexy messages on them to help set the tone.
LET THERE BE LIGHT
Lighting is an often-overlooked element in the bedroom. This is a huge mistake. If you don't like how you look in the glow of a fitting room, having fluorescent overhead lighting is just about as bad. Set up other light sources in your room such as table lamps and candles and use those to achieve the best lighting for your rendezvous. Use pink-tinted light bulbs to flatter your skin even more. Candles are also an excellent addition. You get romantic ambiance and also great mood lighting. To keep the glow longer, and safer, consider battery operated flameless candles.
ACCENTS OF LOVE
What you put in your room should be weighed very carefully against your overall desired theme and mood. If it doesn't gel with your ideal, don't let it even cross the threshold of your bedroom. For some additional ideas, consider these tips:
MOOD KILLERS
Keeping in mind that this is your place for love, certain objects may not be best suited for your playroom. Hidden mood killers include:
Laundry
When you're in the beginning stages of passionate play, looking over and seeing a pile of dirty clothes isn't going to help. Find a place to keep your dirty clothes that's out of sight and out of mind.
Clutter
Nothing is more distracting, especially to women, than clutter. Consider the minimalist approach in your bedroom and keep only things that are necessary for setting your mood. If having additional items is a necessity in your bedroom, find a way to conceal them with boxes, baskets or drawers.
Computers or Office Equipment
While you may need extra space for your home office, the bedroom isn't the place for it. How can you close the door on your work day if that's where you spend your alone time with your partner. If you "must" keep it in your bedroom, think if ways to creatively hide it or keep it a separate space such as using a divider. You can use a screen divider, bookcases, or even curtains hung from the ceiling. Computer armoirs can also achieve the same result.
Photos of Children or Family Members
We all want reminders of the people we love. However, the bedroom isn't always the best place for some of them. Keep the mood of the room in check with photos of places you've visited, pictures of the two of you together or sensual photography.
Stuffed Toys/Mementos
Stuffed toys are cute and memorable, but really, do they belong in the bedroom while you're trying to be a sex goddess? It definitely sends the opposite message of anything erotic.
MOOD SETTERS
In addition to some of the ideas listed in mood killers, here are a few more tips:
Flowers/Live Plants
Nothing says vitality like a thriving plant. Keep in mind your color scheme and pick flowers or plants accordingly. Roses, tulips and daisies are common romantic favorites.
Candles
When you think of romance, one of the first things that comes to mind is candlelight. Use this to your advantage in your den of love.
Romantic/Sensual Accents
Sensual photography, artwork, sculptures or collectibles are a great addition to any passionate bedroom. You might also want to set the tone with artwork from a particular location you both enjoy.
Basket of Lovin'
Keep a secret basket, drawer or chest of your love toys handy and easily accessible. Things to include could include lotions, massage oils, scarves, toys and anything else you both like to use or try for your love play.
The Wardrobe of a Sex Goddess
Keep your lingerie in a prominent position in your closet. This creates two effects. One, it's easy to use whenever the put strikes and two, it serves as a daily teaser for your lover.
In Conclusion
When picking out anything for your room, look at it's texture and color and think about what it makes you feel. If it doesn't feel right for your purpose, don't use it in your room. This is your love den. Make it a place that works for you both.
