Question: My situation is complicated. I am a married woman but having a relationship with someone else who I have fallen in love with. My husband is very sexually active and I find it difficult to respond to him and not think about the other. I love my husband very much but so much has happened that I turned somewhere else. Now I don't know how to handle my bedroom affairs at home. Can you help?
Answer: The first thing to do is get in an ethical situation. Either stop the affair you're having, and/or tell your husband about it. Once you make a decision to do something, it's your responsibility to handle the consequences of your actions. Trust is an important factor and can heavily interfere with a person's sexual interactions. If you seriously want to handle this problem, talk with your husband about what's going on and get your relationship on solid, ethical ground. And, if you don't want to be with him then, leave. It's not fair to him, yourself or your other partner to stay. The sooner you handle this, the sooner you can start being happy about your life, both sexually and as a whole.