My best friend has been going out with her boyfriend for almost a year. During this time they have become very close and I have never seen her this happy before. She asked him about his past girlfriends and after about 3 months he eventually told her about them. In short it turns out he has had two relationships with women who have been married (this was long before he met my friend). The problem is she is battling to accept it. She does not want to lose him, but how does she go against her values and principles? (She is very against adulterous relationships.) What advice can I give her? -Concerned Friend
Dear Concerned Friend,
I feel in many cases the past is the past. It is unfair to judge people based on things they may or may not have done in the past, especially if it is something they are not likely to do again. This outlook may be difficult for some people to accept when it is a personal situation such as the one you mentioned. If I were your friend, I would establish exactly how my significant other feels about adulterous relationships now. Then evaluate how his views compare to my personal values and principles. If everything else in the relationship is fine it doesn't seem fair to cling to a piece of the past.