I'm in love with someone across the country. We've been in a long distance relationship for nearly 3 years, and we've talked about our future together on numerous occasions. The past month however, things have been distant. We seem to argue a lot and today we mentioned letting it go. The problem is that we both love one another, but he questions whether he's still in love with me. I think it's only because of the distance, because whenever we're together, we're ecstatic. I don't know what to do. I don't want this to end, but right now, he's freaking out. What should I do to remind him of our love? My heart is breaking. -Saving Our Long Distance Romance
Dear Saving Our Long Distance Romance,
No one said long distance relationships were easy. If the distance is what's causing the problem, start focusing on ways to solve it. Can you visit more often? Do you both use web cams or send frequent pictures or videos of each other? When will you be able to actually be together? Just realizing there's an end in sight may be enough to ride out this storm. You've been able to survive three years together. How much longer do you need to go? Maybe what he needs is a little reminder of how special the relationship is. My idea would be to put together a compilation of emails and letters or other correspondence you've both shared over the past years. You can do this in the forum of a scrap book, web page or love journal. If seeing what you've shared over this time can't bring his mind back from his doubts, nothing will.