My boyfriend lives in the Bahamas and I live in Florida. We met 16 months ago and there was an instant attraction. We decided to commit to each other after talking for about 4 months. We used to talk about him moving here and getting married. Everything was great until 7 months ago. Now, it seems that he barely calls and we don't see each other as much. I have asked him if he would like some space or if we should part ways. He instantly says no, and claims that he really wants this relationship. I am at my wits end because he can go weeks without calling and doesn't see anything wrong with this. He takes a vacation and instead of coming here he stays home doing nothing or hangs out with his friends. This is someone I truly love and when we are together we have a beautiful relationship, but I am tired of feeling like I am not a priority in his life and I feel as though I am the only person trying to make this relationship work. What am I too do? -Not Important To Him
Dear Not Important To Him,
My guess is it's about time to take this matter seriously. You're at the point in your relationship where you need to know if this could turn serious or not. A long distance relationship involves compromises on both ends. It looks like your partner may not be living up to his. Saying he wants to stay in the relationship is great, but when he doesn't follow his words with action, what he says holds no value. I would talk to him and let him know that you are feeling neglected and not important. If you guys can't find a happy median, then this may not be the relationship you thought it would be. There has to be an equal level of give and take. If you can't find it, you're better off trying to find someone new.